"Demeaning" is right

I found this comment on a forum, and it perfectly expresses some things I've never come close to correctly expressing. Anyway, I'm going to refrain from commenting any more on it:

"In reality, the health of our children can have very little to do with the way we perceive our birth experiences. The death of my first child was undoubtedly a more all around life impacting, devastating experience, but the birth experience itself was not traumatizing. To say having a healthy child is all that matters, well that is demeaning to all women who have given birth with strength and bravery to a dead child, as well as to all women who have been harmed emotionally and physically during the birth of their healthy child."